I read these things. I'm a creepy stalker, in case you're wondering why.
Just some advice: If you don't want to do something, don't do it. It should be fine, just cancel the plot. I don't think anyone would get mad for you wanting to save your character.
I think you're playing Stefan just fine. He seems pretty smooth to me. Palla doesn't even know what it's like to be flirted with, that's why she's not responding to Stefan, for one.
You're not alone in regards to goals, I'm just trying to have fun with Palla. I don't think it's your fault, it's really hard to make a PC with life goals. I don't even have a goal in real life, let alone for Palla. It is frustrating, I know.
I know how it feels to be depressed, and I'm sorry. Just PM me if you need help IC or OOC, and I'll try to assist you in any way I can. You do not have a thick skull, BTW. I literally have a thick skull though. Literally.
Also, just thank you. You've been so patient with me as I get Palla's stuff figured out, and I really appreciate that.